It’s the New Year; you have hopefully had a break and are feeling motivated, energized and refreshed to start the New Year! You might be thinking that you could improve on a few things from last year and the beginning of January is good fresh start.
Often we create goals that get abandoned by the end of the very first month, so how do we avoid this?
First good start, is to get rid of the idea of creating goals and rather decided that you are going to create new habits in your life.
1. Decide what’s not working and what you are not happy with, so that you can get an idea of what you need to change and how you would prefer to do things.
When we are aware of what exactly we want to change, we are better able to observe when it pops up and consciously change our behavior.
2. Take the things you are not happy with and think about what you can do to change them, to be more in line with how you would like things to be. Imagine thinking outside of the box and go with what feels right and what makes you feel good, happy and positive. If you thinking well I could do that but it doesn’t feel very good or right …then your one the wrong track.
If we have a clear vision of how we would like things to be, it’s easier to get there because we can make better choices.
You can’t expect to do the same thing and get a different result, so what changes do you need to make? It takes 21 days to create a new habit, so be patient with yourself while you are creating your new habit and just keep at it!
3. So now you should have a list of habits that are not working and how you would like to change them. Starting with the easiest one figure out where in your old routine the old habit is and decide to replace it with your new habit. Work at it for 21 days, go slowly. If you decided you wanted to get healthier, start by replacing one meal a day with a health one, and then go to two meals and so on.
Remember by keeping it easy and going slowly, you build on the feeling of succeeding and the more that you succeed the more you will want to keep going and stick to it. By doing one habit at a time you’re not overloading yourself and are more able to achieve your new habit.
With each step you achieve, you’ll want to achieve more and before you know it you will have achieved your first habit and you’ll be on a roll for the next one!
If you would like help to achieve a new habit or would like to join my ReBalance program you are more than welcome to contact me
Love & Kindness
Take a moment and think about your bad habits. You could even take a minute and write them down.
Now, imagine if you could use that bad habit to correct a negative thought pattern.
Take your list or think about your habit and give some thought as to why you do or have these negative habits.
How do these negative habits benefit you? What are you getting from them or needing from them?
Our senses take in information which gets sent to our brain which then sends out instructions via our nerves on the action we need to take. Think about a hot stove, you feel the heat which then sends a message to your brain which in turn sends instruction to move your hand away.
Our brains are so ingenious that they can disconnect circuits that no longer get used and make new ones. This is a huge benefit in that, if we have a circuit or habit that we no longer need or find beneficial, if we become more aware of it and start to think about how we would prefer to take action our old thought patterns and circuits break away and new beneficial ones can be created.
So now that you are aware of the negative habit/thought pattern and why you have it and the purpose it was serving. You know that it’s a bad habit and something that you would like to change because it’s something you’re not happy with, you are also now aware that you had it for a reason and because you now know the reason you can take that bad habit and use it as a trigger to give yourself what you need and change the old habit to a more beneficial and successful habit.
You have your list with your negative habits and why you do them. Next write down when that bad habit comes up instead of doing the bad habit you are going to do x, the new habit. Then repeat to yourself “I am willing to release the pattern in my sub conscious & consciousness that created this habit”
From now on whenever you become aware you are doing the bad habit, repeat to yourself “I am willing to release the pattern in my sub consciousness & consciousness that created this habit” and think of your new habit.
Here’s an example:
NEG HABIT WHY/ WHAT AM I NEEDING NEW HABIT
Rushing around Too little time/doing too much Slow down/take on less
Being Irritated Not being present Stop & become present
Trying to control things Feel Safe Be aware of how you feel & let go
When doing this exercise, trust your intuition, trust what comes to mind and go with what feels right to you.
Imagine how awesome it would be to let go and get rid of the old habit and change it to something more beneficial.
I challenge you to do this exercise for the week, see the changes that happen; it’s going to make you more aware of your bad habits and when you notice you are doing them, it will trigger you to change it to a good habit, giving you what you really are looking for and needing.
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Sometimes we may feel like life is hard and we have anxiety and worries about today and the future.
Our thoughts turn to the things that are going wrong, the challenges we face each day and the things that are worrying us in our lives.
The worries, anxieties these thoughts go round and round in our minds. We think if this or that could just happen then I would be happy or if I have that, I will be happy but it seems to be an endless cycle and happiness always just seems to be one step away.
We may even try to distract ourselves from the things that are going on but how do we get it all to stop?
We all have our challenges in life and our “stuff” to deal with but what makes some people happier than others?
How do we take this moment and make it awesome?
I always like to bring my awareness back to the present moment. I think about what is around me. I take a moment to become aware of my senses, I close my eyes and think about what I can hear, what I am feeling, what I can taste, what I smell and then I open my eyes and see what I can see. Bringing your awareness to the present moment, stops those negative thoughts going around and around in your mind.
Then you think about all the great things you have in your life and you may think well my life isn’t that great. I have this problem or that issue to deal with and then you may think about all the things that are stressing you out but what if you woke up tmrw and all off what you have in your life today was gone, how grateful you would be for the life you have today.
Count your blessings today and you will see how lucky you really are.
So why not make it a goal for this week to count your blessings no matter how small they are. Take a moment each day to bring your awareness to the present moment and think about all the things in your life that you have to be grateful for.
Why is it important to breathe? Well of course we need to stay alive but taking a deep breath has huge benefits, not only does it help to clear your mind, it can make you healthier and reduce stress and anxiety levels.
Many of us don’t actually know how to breathe properly instead of taking deep breaths and using the diaphragm to fill the lungs; we take short breaths and use the weaker surrounding muscles. Breathing correctly creates more oxygen saturation in the cells, which activates a number of different nerves and creates a relaxed and alert state.
Lack of oxygen can make you feel tense and nervous. Taking a lovely deep breath lowers your heart rate, blood pressure and improves circulation, which calms you down and clears your mind.
Deep breathing is beneficial for the lungs in that it forces oxygen to fill the deepest parts of the lungs and breaks up any particles and residue that may be there. Deep breathing helps to improve lung capacity and performance.
Next time you feel anxious bring your thought to your breath, I guarantee you are taking short shallow breaths. These breaths trigger the mind to think it’s in danger which put you into fight or flight but when you change to take deep and slow breaths the brain receives a message that tells the nervous system to calm down.
When you focus on your breath you bring your mind into the present. You also are taking control by telling your brain to concentrate on breathing deeply, when its focus is on the breath, it can’t be thinking about things that can make it nervous.
Allow these few reasons to encourage you to breathe deeply:
The correct way to breathe:
Most of us don’t breathe correctly. We breathe with our chest, which ends up working the wrong muscles. We really need to be breathing into our stomachs using the diaphragm.
Variation 2: The 4-4-4-4
Remember sometimes it takes a while before we see results just keep at it and you will see the difference
Images are the building blocks of creation. With a rich imagination you can transform an idea into something innovative, inspiring & successful.
The sky is the limit and fantasy becomes reality when you ground it. Your images, backed by correct action, have the power to manifest your dreams. So give yourself permission to dream today.
Make sure your focus is positive and wholesome, for your imagination can work against you as well as for you.
Remember that achievers always have clear vision.
AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY:
I expand my possibilities with imagination